Showing posts with label inclusion. Show all posts
Showing posts with label inclusion. Show all posts

Sunday, August 16, 2026

Sunday Reflection: Asking for help

Today's reflection is brought to you by   
Michael Angelo Immenraet's 
Jesus and the Woman of Canaan
(17th century)
Matthew 15:21-28.

This is the reflection I shared with my friends at Sanctuary of Peace this morning.

If you’ve ever seen someone having a seizure, you know it can be a very scary thing. In Jesus’ time, people thought that seizures were a sign of demon possession, but now we know they signify uncontrollable electrical impulses in someone’s brain, sometimes requiring medication. Someone I love experiences seizures. 

So I can really relate to the woman in today’s story. She feels panicky and scared because she can't explain her daughter's health situation, and is afraid she might die. (I know what that’s like.) The only difference between me and that woman is that medical interventions didn’t exist in those days and only a local healer named Jesus could help her. So she’s crying and begging for help, loudly! (I’ve been there, too in my worries for my loved one, praying, "Please. Please. Please!") 

And Jesus? He’s just had a big argument with the religious leaders of his own faith and he probably wants a break from people, period. Have you ever felt like that? So in his fully human nature, he doesn’t answer right away, and his followers take his silence for a “No.” They ask him to send the noisy woman away. They know that since she’s from the area around Tyre and Sidon, she’s probably not Jewish, and so they decide that she’s not someone he should be concerned about. 

For a moment, Jesus seems to agree, saying he’s only come for the sake of the lost sheep among his own Jewish people, but in his fully divine nature, he doesn’t send her away. And the woman changes her approach and comes and quietly kneels at Jesus’ feet. Though she knows she’s not one of the people he's been concerning himself with, that she's not one who would sit at his table, she knows that she deserves Jesus’ attention just as much as anybody else. And somehow, she also knows he can heal her daughter, so she’s looking to be included in his care, and she’s not going to take no for an answer. I like that about her!

And Jesus does, too. It's clear that she’s smart, and desperate enough to be a little bit sassy. She speaks her truth, catching Jesus’ attention by using the same supper image that he uses, asking him for the crumbs from the table he's setting for his people, reminding him that though she's not one of them, she deserves his mercy, his care. And though the human Jesus might be tired of arguments, his divine self knows that she’s right and she does deserve his care just as much as the lost sheep religious leaders he was arguing with – because she has absolute faith in him. He praises her faith and heals her daughter immediately. 

So where does this story leave you and me? 

We all have times and places in our lives when we feel panicky and scared, or just plain worn down and frustrated, and we need help. Today’s gospel shows us that whenever someone speaks truth clearly and from their heart, they are heard, no matter who they are. For us, that can be tough to do when we’re anxious or fearful, but if we take a few deep breaths and soften our speech instead of shouting, we’re going in the right direction. 

But even if we’re so desperate that we're loud about what we need, Creator can handle it. We come just as we are, we tell God what’s going on, and God listens – and loves and includes and cares for us all without judgment. I’m quite sure that we judge ourselves -- I know I judge myself -- more than Creator ever will. 

So, just as we are, let’s go meet Jesus as he walks through the countryside near Tyre and Sidon. 

Sit straight in your chair and take a deep breath in… and let it out slowly and quietly. 

Set your feet on the floor and lower your shoulders. Relax and breathe normally, in and out. 

Imagine that you are high on a grassy hill, walking with Jesus on a path wide enough for two. 

The sun is warm, and you can smell good earthy, grassy smells. 

There are patches of wildflowers that catch your eye, and your can hear bees going about their work, and see butterflies floating from flower to flower. 

Jesus picks a piece of grass and chews on the sweet white root end of the stem, and you do the same. 

As you walk, Jesus asks you how your summer has been. How has it been? 

Jesus really wants to know what’s going on with you. He rests his hand on your shoulder as you walk, and the love in his eyes says that you can be who you are and can say anything, and he will listen and love you no matter what. 

Is there something that is worrying you right now? Tell him about your concerns and give them into his care. Take a few moments of silence with him...

He smiles and says that anytime you talk with him you are offering a prayer, and that when the time is right, your prayers will be answered one way or another. He invites you to come and talk with him anytime, day or night. 

Before you come back to this space, let Jesus know you appreciate him with a smile, a hug, a fist bump – whatever works best for you. 

And let’s pray together: 

We thank you, God, for the way you always listen to us, day or night. 
We offer you all our cares and concerns, knowing that you don’t want us to suffer or feel anxious, but to trust in you and the help you send through the people around us. 
Help us to place our lives in your care, and to speak our truth – to ask for help when we need it, and to help others when we can. 
Let us be like the Canaanite woman, knowing that you will include us, and unafraid to ask until we receive your help.
Let us be like you, welcoming and including everyone in our love.
Bless us and keep us close to your heart always. 
+Amen

Saturday, March 30, 2024

Tomorrow's not just Easter Sunday

Tomorrow is more than Easter Sunday. It's also Transgender Visibility Day, a day to celebrate the Transgender people among us. And this year, it's even more important to recognize and support our trans folk because they are coming under attack by politicians who want to win votes from their ultra-right wing, anti-trans supporters.

The thing about ultra-anything and anti-anything folks is that they define themselves by judging others different from themselves for one reason or another, and scapegoating them rather than accepting their differences. (Good Friday was all about scapegoating...) But celebrating diversity and inclusion enriches our world.

I know there are a few Trans Day of Visibility events planned for March 31, but I am having a hard time finding details -- perhaps because, since the Premier of Alberta's declaration against the Trans Community two months ago, Trans folks are not wanting to draw attention to themselves for fear of reprisals from ultra- and anti- folks. They're celebrating quietly. Even so, I do want to acknowledge the day because I happen to love my own trans child, and I want our society to come to a place where everyone is accepted and encouraged to be who they are.

I want to believe that we can all work together to find common ground, and to listen -- to offer each other curiosity and compassion rather than become entrenched in fear and in demonizing those who see life differently than we do.

I hadn't given the people hiding behind divisive issues much thought until I read this article about a counter protest I attended in September. There was very little dialogue or discussion there because it was too loud to even have a conversation.

These kinds of disagreements play into the hands of divisive powers (like the aforementioned Premier) who prefer that we are so engaged in arguing with each other that we don't see how the people  with power are fomenting more and more fear and rage -- which keeps us feeling anxious, hopeless, and powerless rather than working together to discuss and address the issues that are most critical. And often those critical issues are making the powerful even more powerful -- to our detriment. (I saw a post somewhere yesterday that said the top 1% of the world's wealthy have 44 trillion dollars among them. If that isn't sinful, I don't know what is.)

So I guess I'm calling all of us, especially anti- and ultra people, to curiosity, compassion, and conversation rather than judgment and condemnation of people who are different. And I want to celebrate Trans people who are making a difference, like Captain Beatrice Gale, the first openly Trans chaplain in the Canadian Armed Forces, who appears in the video below. 

And I am saying to the trans community that I see you, I know and love some of you, and you are wonderful just for being who you are. Happy Trans Day of Visibility!

Sunday, September 23, 2018

Sunday Reflection: Asking for the right things

Today's reflection is brought to you by James 3:16 - 4:3.

O God,
for what shall we ask?

Not for the things that cause envy,
that place us higher than others,
not for things that create disorder,
or lead to wickedness of any kind.

No,
we should ask for wisdom from you,
your wisdom in us --
peace and gentleness,
surrender and mercy,
the deepest goodness that invites and includes others.

If we sow peace,
we harvest goodness and peace.

But sometimes,
our desires get the best of us.

It's too easy
to forget all the good we already have
and to want glamour or fame,
brilliance or beauty,
or a wealth of things
that cannot satisfy.

Remind us,
in those moments,
that we should ask for wisdom from you.

Your wisdom in us --
peace and gentleness,
surrender and mercy,
the deepest goodness that invites and includes others.

Help us to ask just for the right things.

+Amen.

Wednesday, April 26, 2017

A revolution of hope and tenderness

Tenderness is the word my best friend and I chose as our focus for 2017, and I'm delighted to see Pope Francis choosing it as a theme for his TED talk, too. He also uses a lot of other words I love, like hope, solidarity and inclusion, and reminds us of the story of the Good Samaritan as a model for each one of us to care for the suffering among us.

"...a tiny flicker of light that feeds on hope is enough to shatter the shield of darkness. 
A single individual is enough for hope to exist, and that individual can be you."

"...tenderness is the path of the strongest, most courageous men and women."

There are so many good lines in this TED talk that you might want to listen to the whole thing.


https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=36zrJfAFcuc

If you do nothing else for yourself today, have a listen to this man,
and join the revolution of tenderness!

Tuesday, March 24, 2015

A zillion different colours

A rainbow cross made for me
by my new friend.
I don't know about you, but I'm getting really tired of this black and white world that so many of us are living in. You know, good versus evil, liberal versus conservative, gay versus straight, believer versus non-believer, east versus west, and any other seemingly opposing viewpoints you care to pit against one another. Dividing ourselves into camps is never a good idea for human beings. It's the antithesis of inclusion, of openness to others, and about as far from God's plan for the world as we can get. God includes everything, if we look around for a minute. It's just we humans who divide the world into opposing categories.

At the L'Arche Emmaus retreat in Montreal two weeks ago, I was blessed to journey with a young assistant who had recently come out as a gay man. He is a really beautiful person with many gifts, including a deep intelligence, compassion, understanding, warmth, openness, honesty, and a wonderful sense of humour. He gave me my best belly laugh of the week! Thankfully, his family, friends, and L'Arche community are supportive of him, and he is able to honour and celebrate the way God made him to be. We spent a lot of time talking about his hopes and his dreams, and it was a joy to listen to a man who knows and loves himself and wants to share his gifts with others, including someone to love.

But there are so many people in his position who feel that that they have no choice but to pretend to be what they are not, to deny their sexuality in places where its spectrum is not understood or honoured. In sexuality, as in most things, there is so much more than the black and white, this-versus-that perspective. The full colour spectrum is made of zillions of different colours, each of them important and necessary to the whole.

God sees all of the people he and she has created as important and necessary to the whole, too, or she and he wouldn't have created us! It's long past time for us to stop worrying about human-made categories in our ideologies, spiritualities, nationalities, sexualities, and simply live in the inclusive reality that is God.